Remember our process of DARE? D= Deciding to let it go. A= Acknowledging your contributions to resentment issues. R= Remembering tools that work for you as either the Injured or the Offending Partner. E= Executing winning strategies to deal with resentment.
So, here we are! You have DECIDED to let it go (step 1). Your partner has ACKNOWLEDGED and you have accepted that there was a contribution to the resentment by both of you (step 2). You have are working to REMEMBER the methods that work for you (step 3) to let go or resentment or gain forgiveness and become a better partner. How do you put it all together so it works for both of you?
In terms of resentment, a winning strategy is one that accomplishes the goals of reducing feelings of resentment in the relationship. The purpose of this lesson is to think of terms of how to deal with resentment in your marriage if you are the injured partner or the offending partner.
Let’s see how to do this…